Women Supporting Women: “HER” Unseen Force. 

Conducting of sessions with support of Rosy Di.

(Source: Joyeeta Chowdhury)

I still remember the day when for the first time I visit Dhinkia village of Paradeep. Its a small village in Paradeep Odisha with population count of around 3000, living peaceful. A girl wearing a green kurta set with a bag at her back, specs on, reaches to the local Phc Anganwadi and suddenly ask for entry. It was quiet awkward phase for me and the opposite audience. With a very shocking expression she looks at me and ask “what are you saying?”(in Odia) and drags a chair for me to sit and tries to make me feel comfortable.

This was the moment when I met Rosy di for the first time but the gesture, the conversation we had regarding my thematic on Menstrual health and hygiene was something very heavy for the day. I slowly ended up my conversation and returned home. It was quite hectic day, when I eventually went to prepare my dinner I got a call from an unknown number. I took a pause and attended the call, and recognize the voice of Rosy Di, the lady who came in contact with me few hours back had positively called me to take my update. We had a long conversation regarding each others household work and had developed an unnamed bonding with her.

On visiting my village I and Rosy di often use to have long conversation related to different topics alone with our meetings and discussions. The main twist comes when one particular day I visited my field and she was not available in the Phc. On asking her other colleagues I would listen the story behind her pretty smile. The struggle, the hustle she undergoes every single day to maintain a peaceful life. Apart from these she was also going through a natural bouncer as her daughter started menstruating and she is facing some complexity because of which she needs to travel to Cuttack which is around 2.5hours from her location. 

That day I would realize that my struggle, challenges are quite smaller informt of her. Its nothing just about adjustment but I constantly kept complaining about demotivation, laziness in my work rather she being a simple lady not that much educated balances every single pointers of life in vey technical and positive manner. I thought that I have been using the jargon demotivation, boring life and many more but, what does she do to motivate herself and all others surrounding her? Nothing just a simple step accepting the reality and focusing on her boundary which is her family. She wakes up with a positive mind and views every thing in a progressive manner. Her this nature makes her strong at every single moment. As I mention this quality of her I would like to share an experience of my with her.

On the occasion of “World Menstruation Day” I had scheduled a meeting with the community she being the head of the Phc she needed to be present. But due to some emergency she had to leave for Cuttack. In this crisis situation also she managed to inform me about her studden change in the plan and pushes my inner confidence by saying “ kuch nahi hoga Joyeeta madam aap aye”(nothing will happen you just come). I was bit upset yet I made my visit to the community for the meeting, it was quite surprising when I could see that she was not their but she had arranged every single possibility. Apart from that she even manages the crisis situation at her end and comes to meet me to take my feedback regarding her arrangements. It was completely a silence moment for me I was unable to express my feelings in word. The commitment and dedication that she had in her work showed me a way to overcome my challenges in a creative manner.

She have been working as a guiding light for my journey and every single moment I see her my inspiration level increases to look into myself and modify myself in more enthusiastic pattern. I just wounder how a person who manages every single bit of her journey in such interesting way and makes the complete area quite adaptable for everyone. The smile and courage of accepting the hurdles in a creative lens make the situation simplified and builts inner confidence to overcome the challenges without thinking about the failure. Now when I am standing in the 2nd year of the journey my feeling resemblance that I have taken a new brith in this sector where I try to view every single moves in a positive and productive optics.